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Love it, but Leave It: We yearn to disconnect

June 19, 2013

As you know, dear readers, I recently completed a self-imposed social media sabbatical. I only lasted about 10 days of no little social media usage. Staying off Twitter and Facebook were the biggest victories. Apparently, I’m not alone in the desire to disconnect. As much as I and others love social media, unplugging and doing without for a while is not only a healthy practice, I would argue a necessary one. I don’t want to wax philosophical about how absence makes the heart grow fonder, that you don’t know what you’ve got til it’s gone or any other cliched pop culture reference. I’ve already written about what a short sabbatical did for me and the lessons learned.
This post is about how social media sabbaticals and disconnecting from a hyperconnected world are suddenly becoming all the rage. This week alone, I’ve seen several posts about this very subject (yes, I learned about these articles through social media). Not everyone has to go to the South China Sea, where there is no wifi, no cellphone signal and “most alarmingly, there would be no Twitter,” to escape the daily social grind as travel writer Jillian Keenan did.
“I Google, Facebook, email and tweet in the same insatiable way that I drink water and breathe air,” the 26-year-old writes in the Post piece. Keenan concluded that she “needed a technological detox,” which came in the form of a rugged, but beautiful island and sea adventure.
But we don’t all have to GO away in order to GET away from the deluge of messages we’re bombarded with in our everyday daily lives.
Younger Millennials are starting to figure this out, according to a new study by MTV. Younger Millennials are starting to unplug and mono-task to de-stress. According to the MTV study, younger Millennials “are also consciously taking time to self-soothe, disconnect, de-stress, de-stimulate and control inputs. They increasingly “mono-task” and focus on immersive hands-on activities like baking, sewing or crafting. Some claim their dependence on social media is overrated: one girl says ‘My parents Facebook more than I do.'”
The report found that 8 in 10 young Millennials agree that “Sometimes I just need to unplug and enjoy the simple things” and that 82% of young Millennials agree “when I’m stressed or overwhelmed, I like to stop and just do one thing at a time,” with more than half (57%) of young Millennials like to take a break from technology to make things with their hands.
Of course you don’t have to be a “tech homesteader” or young Millennial to disconnect and disengage from the social world. While my social media sabbatical was a mere week and a half, author Neil Gaiman announced a planned 6-month social media sabbatical.
“Gaiman announced that he would take a break from updating his 1.8m followers on Twitter, his 500,000 Facebook friends and maybe even posting for the 1.5m readers of his blog,” The Guardian reported.
Of course, when you are actively engaged, telling others that you’re deliberating trying to go without seems strange. The peers in your social network may react with disbelief. And saying you’re going offline and actually doing it are two different things.
Baratunde Thurston offers advice on how to successfully #unplug. After a year filled with 1,518 Facebook posts (4 per day), 3,702 SMS threads (10 per day), 4,845 Photos taken (13 per day), 11,541 Tweets (32 per day), and 59,409 Gmail conversations (163 per day), Thurston decided a digital detox was in store.
“I didn’t want to be alone,” Thurston writes. “I just wanted to be free of obligations, most of which asserted themselves digitally.”
So for 25 days, Thurston disappeared from the digital world. His excellent Fast Company post offers a 9-point digital detox list offering “how to disappear.” I highly recommend checking it out.
While there are definite advantages to taking a sabbatical, going to an island in the South Seas, or temporarily detoxing digital from your life, there’s also a price to pay. For me, my Klout score dropped about 15 points because I wasn’t constantly tweeting, Facebooking (is that even a verb?), checking-in, or linking in. I don’t regret it one bit. You won’t either.
When it comes to Social Media, not only should you love it, but leave it. Just make sure you #return.